Secret to eternal peace.

"Eternal Peace" refers to a state of perpetual tranquility. It is very much possible to attain this state. This can be achieved through practice and being in knowledge also awareness.
It is a state of mind where you are devoid of thoughts of worries, anxiety, regrets etc., a state of eternally happy inside out.
A true happiness is an inside out factor. Nothing can shake your peace.

Secret to "Eternal Peace" are :

1. Be more forgiving: Do not hold on to any hatred, grudge etc. Forgiveness is the best thing to attain peace in life.

2. Meditation: Start meditating. Meditation brings you to present moment and thus helps to be at peace.

3. Let it go:  Do not worry or be about your future. Do not brood over your past. Things that you cannot control, let it go.

4. Keep Smiling: Smiling helps us to be in our spirit always. This not only lifts up your mood, this is contagious. This makes others also around you happy.

5. Be loving: Only thing that is constant is love. Love moves the world. Love is eternal.

6. Acceptance: Acceptance is the key to be at peace ever. Start accepting the people and situations around you.

7. Do not judge: You never know what is the other person going through unless you have walked on their path. So keep your judgments at bay.

8 Spend sometime with solitude: Every day, preferably mornings spend sometime with self in stillness. Listen to your soul's voice. This act of talking to soul through silence makes you reflect upon and keeps you 'eternally peaceful'

9. Focus on your goals: instead of focusing on things that doesn't matter much, focus on your goals and achieve them and let your success makes noise, not your mind.

Regular practice of above mentioned commandments in life will definitely keep you eternally at peace. You need not go to Himalayas to seek peace.

-Via Geethapriya

Psych Guides- Anger issues

Anger symptoms and causes:

Anger issues are not limit to teen and it is very important to understand anger symptoms and causes if you suspect you are, or anybody you know as, suffering from an anger disorder. Individuals who have trouble in controlling the anger, or who experience anger outside of normal emotional scope can present with different type of anger disorder.

Anger and resistance directly effects to health:

There are some forms of anger which directly effects on health:

 Chronic anger, which is prolonged, can impact the immune system and be the cause of different mental disorder.
 Passive anger, which does not always come across as anger and can be difficult to identify.
 Over whelmed anger, which caused by life demand that is too much for an individual to cope with.
 Self –inflicted anger, which is directed toward he self and may be caused by feeling of guilt.
 Judgmental anger, which is directed toward other and may come with feeling of resentment.
 Volatile anger, which involves some times spontaneous bouts of excessive or violent anger.

Passive Anger

People experiencing passive anger may not even realize they are angry. When we experience passive anger, our emotions may be displayed as sarcasm, apathy or meanness. We might participate in self-defeating behaviors such as skipping school or work, alienating friends and family, or performing poorly in professional or social situations. Because passive anger may be repressed, it can be hard to recognize; counseling can help we to identify the emotions behind our actions, bringing the object of our anger to light so we can deal with it.

Aggressive Anger

Individuals who experience aggressive anger are usually aware of their emotions, although the true roots of their. In some cases, they redirect violent anger outbursts to scapegoats because it is too difficult to deal with the real problems. Aggressive anger often manifests as volatile or retaliatory anger and can result in physical damages to property and other people. Learning to recognize them and manage anger symptoms is essential to dealing positively with this form of anger.

What Causes Anger?

A leading cause of anger is a person’s environment. Stress, financial issues, abuse, poor social or familial situations, and overwhelming requirements on our time and energy can all
contribute to the formation of anger. As with disorders such as alcoholism, anger issues may be more prevalent in individuals who were raised by parents with the same disorder. Genetics and our body’s ability to deal with certain chemicals and hormones also play a role in how we deal with anger; if our brain doesn’t react normally to serotonin, we might find it more difficult to manage our emotions.

Emotional Symptoms of Anger-Related Problems

We might think the emotional symptoms of anger-related problems are limited to anger, but a number of emotional states could indicate that we are failing to deal with anger in a positive and healthy fashion. Constant irritability, rage and anxiety are possible emotional symptoms.

Physical Symptoms of Anger-Related Problems

Strong emotions often bring about physical changes to the body and anger is no exception. Letting anger issues go unaddressed can put our overall health at risk. Some physical symptoms of anger-related problems include:
 Tingling
 Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest
 Increased blood pressure
 Headaches
 Pressure in the head or sinus cavities
 Fatigue

What type of angry person I am?

I am the type of person, who effects from a little bit of aggressive anger, but nobody injured because I have control on my aggressiveness, I can just hurt myself, if anybody hurt then I will apologize.

- Via Qamer

Depression- an witnessed epidemic

A brief overview of depression

In the recent world of stressful and monotonous work routine, depression is a mental disorder that is coursing through numerous individuals like an unseen epidemic and is indeed a burning problem for the new generation. Now, many people are in denial mode as to what is depression actually and might think that it is a passing problem, but the fact is deep-rooted. It is a phase in which the affected person has a negative approach towards everything he or she thinks or does. The activities that were once enjoyable to the person are so longer of any interest and depression can cause distinction in both physical as well as mental aspect.

How to detect if a person is in depression?

Now that you know what is depression, it is important for you to have an in-depth knowledge about the symptoms of depression which are being enlisted below.

●      An utter feeling of sadness engulfing the individual which can be deducted from his or her facial expression.

●      Loss of appetite weight loss.

●      Increased fatigue in the individual and lack of energy and alertness.

●      Expression of feeling guilty or unworthy of anything.

●      Difficulty in decision making or concentrating.

●      Thoughts of suicide or self-harm which can lead to fatality.

Unfolding the causes of depression

Unlike what most people might have to say, depression is a lot different from general grief or sadness. It is an intense feeling of emptiness and bereavement that refuses to detach from the individual. When the aforementioned symptoms last for at least a span of two weeks or longer, it can be diagnosed that the person is suffering from depression. There are numerous depression causal agents as human psychology is one of the most mysterious subjects you can ever come across. We are listing some of the major causes of depression:

●      Genetic cause- yes, it might sound unbelievable but depression does pass on from one generation to the other. The risk factor of genetic depression is quite high and cannot be ignored.

●      A chemical imbalance of the brain- if there is an imbalance in the neurotransmitters in the brain, then it might initiate depression in the individual.

●      Female hormone imbalance- In cases like pregnancy and polycystic ovarian syndrome, female hormones like estrogen and progesterone can mess with the brain functioning and cause depressing phases like postpartum depression.

●      Depressing life events- in case of events like death or disease of beloved ones, it is highly likely that depression can set in.

Ways to reduce depression:

If you see any of your near and dear ones suffering from depression, here are some of the methods you can use which can contribute to reducing depression:

1.     Meditation- meditation, instead of medication is a great healer of depression. If a person can meditate for at least ten minutes a day, he or she can slowly come out of the grip of depression.

2.     Exercise - exercise can freshen the mind and help in the balance of brain chemicals thus eliminating depression.

3.     Counseling- find a good counselor and let him talk to the patient. It is sure to be helpful in reducing depression.

In a nutshell, depression, no matter how fiery it is, is a curable mental disorder and with proper medication and treatment, it can be eliminated once and for all.

 - Via Pritha

Dealing With Anger in Love and Relationships

People often believe that the relationship between anger and love is very close when it comes to human relationships. They say, ‘you only get angry with the people you love!’

However, in more practical situations, the crucial question exists – Is anger good in relationships?

The answer is NO.

Effects of Anger on Relationships

It is never a happy feeling to be around a loved one who is angry with you. It ruins the whole vibe of being with them. At the same time, anger in love is also an inevitable feeling. As couples grow closer, they become more comfortable and open to sharing their emotions, of which, anger could also be a part. Unfortunately, explosive anger may result in saying or doing things that can cause damage to the relationship. On the other hand, implosive anger may fester into resentment, which ultimately spells doom for the relationship.

Dealing With Anger

The best way to tackle the issue is by decoupling the relationship between anger and love so that it is unacceptable to be angry with your loved ones. We need to stop taking our loved ones for granted and should treat them with respect. It is a challenge to be dealing with anger, whether it is anger towards the partner or anger towards yourself. But here are a few healthy ways that can actually help!

Think Before Speaking

Anger is comparable to insanity – a condition where you go beyond logic. Thus, it is quite plausible that you may end up saying something that you do not mean and/or will resent later. So the best way to avoid such a situation is by counting up to 10 before saying anything. This tip will help you choose your words carefully.

Address the Issue

The next step to fix anger in love is by addressing the root cause of it. It is not necessary that you begin talking about it almost immediately once the anger has simmered down. In fact, it is advisable to do so when you are both calm. Begin a healthy dialogue and replace all the “you” statements with “I feel” statements. For example, instead of saying “Why didn’t you…?” use “I feel upset that….”

Be an Active Listener

Much like you, your partner would also want to be heard and vent out their negative emotions. The best way to make them feel better when they do it is by being an active listener. Repeating what you have understood and heard makes your partner feel better as it affirms their feelings. Additionally, it also reflects that you are legitimately listening to their woes rather than getting defensive.

Bridge the Gaps

Bridging gaps could include finding a middle path where you can both agree. Agreeing to a compromise that works for both of you means actively practicing empathy. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and relate with their emotions. This empathy will help you reach a greater understanding, thereby offering a viable solution to the problems.

Reconnect

Often, anger results in a disconnect between the partners. Once the matter has been sorted, find ways to reconnect with your partner. Physical contacts through the acts of hugging, cuddling, and even having sex can help get over the bitterness caused by anger.

Now that you know that the answer to ‘is anger good in relationships’ is no, you can use these tips to deal with it whenever the unpleasantness shows up. When you can effectively deal with negative emotions such as anger, you are setting out on the path to a happy and prosperous relationship for life!

- Via Apurva

Chakra Healing: Let Your Energy Flow

Chakra Healing is mostly used by people to balance mental, emotional and physical health.  The universe is full of radiating energy from biggest mountains to the smallest cells in our body. The human cell radiates energy in various forms and each cell radiates different form of energy. Each and every part of the body functions uniquely and are located at different locations. The kind of energy the body emits depends upon the location of the cells and the function it performs in our body.

Chakras

Chakra is a Sanskrit word which means wheel. The energy of the chakra moves in a clockwise direction, it moves the energy of the body out into the fields around us and rotates counterclockwise to pull energy from the external world into the body. The Chakras mostly starts from the bottom level of the spinal cord and at the level of coccyx bone and then travels forward up to the spinal cord to reach the topmost part of the body, such as the head.

Types of Chakra

There are different types of Chakra which are listed below:

1.     Root Chakra

2.     Sacral Chakra

3.     Solar Plexus Chakra

4.     Heart Chakra

5.     Throat Chakra

6.     Third Eye Chakra

7.     Crown Chakra

Chakra Meditation

In Chakra Meditation it’s important to bring the entire body system into balance. It will take time to get them balanced, but with time and experience one can achieve it and will even get better with it.  With time you can also focus meditation on a particular chakra. To get started with the meditation process, you need to sit as per points mentioned below:

1.     You need to find a peaceful place where there is no disturbance for at least half an hour.

2.     Sit on the floor comfortably with your legs folded or sit on a cushion

3.     Your spine should be erect and with no stress

4.     Your hands, place them on your knee.

5.     Breathe evenly and deeply

Find the level of the cause by focusing

In order to find the cause you first need to address the problem. If you are unhappy or feeling distressed or upset your emotions will be seen on your behavior and also on your body. It’s important that the Chakra meditation includes the necessary type of meditation that will guide you bring attention to yourself, also brings you at pure aware state.

Concentrate on the levels

The next step after chakra meditation is to focus on the effects. This can be done by using

§  The Well being Boat meditation method

§  Inner vision and meditation

§  White Light Chakra Meditation

If you are new to Chakra meditation you can listen to the audio of meditation and just follow the instruction over the phone.

Balance Using Massage Method

The chakra healing uses another technique commonly known as massage method. This method is used on each of the chakras namely the root chakra, Sacral Chakra, Solar Plexus, Heart Chakra, Throat Chakra, third eye chakra and on the remaining chakras as well.

Sound Healing Method

All the chakras will respond to different Chakra healing music frequencies. One of the popular techniques that are included in chakra is the Solfeggio. The music frequency of Solfeggio is used to generate healing sounds.

- via Nidhi Goel