No 'Time Pass' in Life should be just for 'Passing time'

‘Life is beautiful’ and many have reminded you about the same. Every time you find any tough or unpredictable situation in life, you realize that life sucks. But you know what, whether it is tough or easy, the life must be enjoyed. There is no past and future of anyone’s time span what he or she is spending on earth. This is not that deep what Lord Krishna had comprehended to Arjuna. This is something very common what we all have done in our lives.

With the Self development blogs, you can figure out the one thought that is reflecting your situations in the terms of words. The thought is that, you should live your life full and enjoy every moment.

Have you ever thought this?

Did you ever say the line, ‘I am just doing a time-pass’, or ‘tell me something to pass this time’? You may remind for many situations when you were passing the time. People take a number of ways to pass the time. Actually, they look for time passes to serve their life better, like music, reading or anything. But there is really something that you need to understand about life, this is no time bounces back.

People love to enjoy the happy moments of life, but when it comes to the sad or unhappy moments they try to avoid. See, avoiding any situation is never going to help you to deal with the same. No matter how hard the situation is, a song will not tackle the situation, although it injects the motivation. But when it comes to the term time pass, people adopt a totally different definition about this.

The neutral times

Irrespective to the sweet and hard times of the life, the word time pass comes into existence when the people are having a neutral time. The neutral time refers to the situation when people are free and have nothing to do. This time can be the waiting time or the time when your given tasks are completed.

You are free to do anything to enjoy your neutral time, but when you replace the term ‘enjoy’ by ‘pass’, it sounds different. Your life is a gift from Almighty and here each and every moment is precious, even the neutral one too. Therefore, before thinking to pass that time, you should initiate to enjoy that time.

Fill the joy in every moment

 Life is nothing; it is just a bunch of few incredible years that are given to you to live with full enthusiasm and love. Life is the greatest glory, and understanding the same is also needed. This will be a great thing if you are not having any tough time in life, though you will need to pass that time whether by tackling or avoiding. Even if you are having a neutral time in life, fill every moment with joy and pleasure.

•        Listen to your favorite music and get the indulgence. Additionally, you can also tap your feet and do the movements to serve your time.

•        Take your favorite book and read every word of that consciously. You can cover number books and your favorite topics to make your moments joyful.

•        Find your old album and remind your great times when you had clicked those pretty moments and what was the situation at that time.     

There are many other things what you can do to enjoy each and every second. These motivational life changing blogs, can influence you in many ways but the one thing that you must remember that don’t use the term that you are doing this to pass the time. This will be an insult to God’s precious gift. You will live no longer once you have realized about you need a time pass. You should enjoy every moment otherwise when you will need time; this will trouble you that you have passed many.

Time Management: A virtue of life

Imagine about sand which is falling down through the clefts of your grasp. Every time you think of holding the same, you are left with empty hands. Let’s compare the same with the time, this leads you to understand the value of that. No matter how hard you are trying to rescue the time, but it runs with the same velocity every time.

A single minute, even a second, will never come back in life. Living every subtle of the time is as necessary as you breathe. This is not as tough as you may think till now, it is just like you need to understand and then explore the value.

Give the time, serve the time

You may have heard about a line that ‘time is a most valuable gift you can give to others’ but did you ever realize the real meaning of this? Many times a person promised to meet you but didn’t come at the same given time. Even if the person gets late by five minutes you start getting frustrated and then you realize the value of time.

When you have postponed so many things to manage one meet, but even that meet starts late. Now, you may realize the same situations where you did the same late. Firstly you need to understand that, punctuality is the virtue of life and it is not that much difficult. Just make sure that if you are giving time to someone then stick to it. This will lead you to achieve the virtue where everyone definitely marks you as a most punctual person.

Be punctual and grab attention

Punctuality is an art where a person successfully attracts the attention of people. Many are often pretending after being late that they do so to get attention. First of all, dust out this superstition and think out of the box. Punctuality is important, not only for you but also for the people who do wait. If a person enters late in a meeting hall, obviously the entire staff will stare at the wacky one. But it doesn’t mean that the person is gaining respectful attention.

The matter is not about catching the time, because no one can. The matter is all about managing the time. This is the world, full of various kinds of people and then every individual has their priorities in lives. Therefore, no hard and fast rule can be drafted to serve them all. But still understanding a few tricks can help you to be a punctual person in life.

How you can learn this auspicious management

There are many books that talk about time management, but before reading them you need to understand a few things. You should follow the evergreen dignified rules of time management, but don’t stick to one. The importance of time management can’t be summarized in a few words, but it may refer as a tool of living life in a respectful manner.

•    Don’t commit anything in advance. If you are having full confidences about something then only give your time to someone.

•    A clear deny is better than to make someone wait.

•    Try to make a layout of all works that are needed to be done, and then recreate the same on the priority basis.

•    Never rush on the tasks on their volume basis, define the time slot to live every moment at it full.

A disciplined person always gets respected by the society and when it comes about the time management, the punctuality embraces the discipline. The life is run-race these days and then every slot of time should be assigned with the most suitable one. This management art is adaptive in nature and will coerce the others to get influenced by you.

   

   

Practicing Apathy and Denouncing A Judgmental Attitude

Life is sometimes best described as an absolute roller coaster. It sometimes reaches the highest of highs and sometimes, takes us to the lowest of lows. Neither is an unchanging state of happiness favored nor should it be desired for it is through suffering and struggle that we learn the greatest lessons of life. These are the same lessons that take us forward when we look back at all the tough times we have passed and smile, feel proud at our fortitude, and move on. This is to say that is best that you don't judge people by one season. Be it positive or negative, failure or success, happiness or sadness, one season or a phase in a person's life is much like reading one page in a book and judging it to be either brilliant or bad.

Our time in this world is limited; it is marked and accounted for at every breath we take. It is on us to make the best of it for as everyone says, time never stops for anyone. The forward motion of time compels us to keep moving forward no matter what we experience. Even though time is universal, it is also highly subjective. Time changes for everyone and brings forth a new set of perspective, outlook, and eventually, a whole new self. Science has proved evolution of man and we have all seen pieces of evidence of that. It is the evolution of our individual selves that often goes unnoticed by most people and sometimes even by our own selves. Do we tend to judge people on the based on generic metrics even though we know that every person is distinct in their own characters? If yes, what defines this metric and who decided it?

Let us explain this with the help of a simple example. You know how everyone always says that we should be judging a book by its cover'? That is because a single sheet of graphic, painting, text, or design cannot encapsulate all that the book holds. The quick judgement we make of that book, terming it as 'good' or 'bad' is no more than a judgement when it should have been an informed opinion. This also applies to people. When we meet a person at a certain period of time they may be going through a great phase in life or a pathetically low one. Whatever it may be, it is still a phase and as we know, phases of life come and go. Hence, it is not only wrong but also morally wrong to judge a person instead of forming an informed opinion about them.

But, what happens when we misjudge people? Do we hurt them? Yes, we do. Not only do we hurt their emotions but, depending on where they are in that present phase in life, hurt their confidence and self-esteem. We as humans have the power of both cruelty and apathy. It is up to us whether we wish to wield the former of the latter. Cruelty here does not imply physical cruelty but moral cruelty that e have so un-apologetically adopted in the present day when what we really need is apathy. Apathy brings us closer to people and prevents us from forming judgments of a person based on just one season of their life.

In order to practice apathy, you can practice a simple habit. This can be explained with the example of a regular activity such as buying a book. Next time you go to a bookstore, make sure you buy the book not based on the judgement you arrive at looking at the cover, but by actually taking a peek into it and investing the time to read a little about the story it has to tell.

Old Memories....

When you walk past the memory lane, a sense of grief and relief tends to overcome your will-power. If right, slither to the right and share and like!!!

उसकी बेमिसाल बेवफाई की मिसालें आज भी दी जाती हैं

-Sangeet

Psych Guides- Anger issues

Anger symptoms and causes:

Anger issues are not limit to teen and it is very important to understand anger symptoms and causes if you suspect you are, or anybody you know as, suffering from an anger disorder. Individuals who have trouble in controlling the anger, or who experience anger outside of normal emotional scope can present with different type of anger disorder.

Anger and resistance directly effects to health:

There are some forms of anger which directly effects on health:

 Chronic anger, which is prolonged, can impact the immune system and be the cause of different mental disorder.
 Passive anger, which does not always come across as anger and can be difficult to identify.
 Over whelmed anger, which caused by life demand that is too much for an individual to cope with.
 Self –inflicted anger, which is directed toward he self and may be caused by feeling of guilt.
 Judgmental anger, which is directed toward other and may come with feeling of resentment.
 Volatile anger, which involves some times spontaneous bouts of excessive or violent anger.

Passive Anger

People experiencing passive anger may not even realize they are angry. When we experience passive anger, our emotions may be displayed as sarcasm, apathy or meanness. We might participate in self-defeating behaviors such as skipping school or work, alienating friends and family, or performing poorly in professional or social situations. Because passive anger may be repressed, it can be hard to recognize; counseling can help we to identify the emotions behind our actions, bringing the object of our anger to light so we can deal with it.

Aggressive Anger

Individuals who experience aggressive anger are usually aware of their emotions, although the true roots of their. In some cases, they redirect violent anger outbursts to scapegoats because it is too difficult to deal with the real problems. Aggressive anger often manifests as volatile or retaliatory anger and can result in physical damages to property and other people. Learning to recognize them and manage anger symptoms is essential to dealing positively with this form of anger.

What Causes Anger?

A leading cause of anger is a person’s environment. Stress, financial issues, abuse, poor social or familial situations, and overwhelming requirements on our time and energy can all
contribute to the formation of anger. As with disorders such as alcoholism, anger issues may be more prevalent in individuals who were raised by parents with the same disorder. Genetics and our body’s ability to deal with certain chemicals and hormones also play a role in how we deal with anger; if our brain doesn’t react normally to serotonin, we might find it more difficult to manage our emotions.

Emotional Symptoms of Anger-Related Problems

We might think the emotional symptoms of anger-related problems are limited to anger, but a number of emotional states could indicate that we are failing to deal with anger in a positive and healthy fashion. Constant irritability, rage and anxiety are possible emotional symptoms.

Physical Symptoms of Anger-Related Problems

Strong emotions often bring about physical changes to the body and anger is no exception. Letting anger issues go unaddressed can put our overall health at risk. Some physical symptoms of anger-related problems include:
 Tingling
 Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest
 Increased blood pressure
 Headaches
 Pressure in the head or sinus cavities
 Fatigue

What type of angry person I am?

I am the type of person, who effects from a little bit of aggressive anger, but nobody injured because I have control on my aggressiveness, I can just hurt myself, if anybody hurt then I will apologize.

- Via Qamer

Finding positivity is real spirituality

Being spiritual is not something getting filtered off, its related to self-realization, self-growth through self-insights. It’s negotiation with self-“KARMA” for gaining incisive spirituality. What we really want from self? So many times we have heard the Karma does but what exactly thy Karma is? Is Karma is what we do? For understanding the basic concept of spirituality we have to go through the Karma too. And the answer to the very questions lies in the same.

Definitely whatever we do is Karma either intentionally or unintentionally. Still, when we do all the things according to ethics and mannerism of human nature, why we get poignant after doing all good from us? The answer is the intentions behind our deeds is the only responsible element that depicts and evaluate our Karma and consequences.

When we are sensitive enough to react with the balance of our mind to any situation either good or bad we become a human being rather than human bodies. Similarly, when we react to other peoples without being judgmental and without any expectation we get in the state of equilibrium of spirituality itself.

LOVE is the most pious and universal kind of all the emotions to understand spirituality. It brings us in the state of selflessness where we tend to keep the other person above to self and always pay off ourselves to them. We rectify our deeds and intentions just to make the person/people around us happy and content anyhow.

When a person is capable enough to control its spontaneous reactions and excitement in happiness or sorrow it’s a commendable spiritual soul itself. There are much more grounds and ways to understand the real karma.

Although, everybody has its own definition of spirituality but, to me finding positivity is spirituality. 

We can find positivity through making our insights confident enough to face and take up any situation with no chaos and dilemmas. Also, all such things that distract our minds put us in a situation where we get pissed of and we start searching for some moral support that can positively encourage us. But when we are lonely and hardly find any positive source we need to do it our self by understanding that being positive is the only thing that can bring out us from those giddy situations. Just ensure that what is not in our hands we need to thrush them and need to put our strength and knowledge in a positive direction for better outcomes. Hence, Its somewhere proven that finding positivity is truly being spiritual.

-Via Chanchal

Are you leading a meaningful life- Find out with us

Life is a onetime journey. A journey to many places with the pit stop at the end of time. It is a long trail of mistakes, achievements, emotions, love, betrayal, etc. People say life is unpredictable. But why is it going to be unpredictable when you are planning ahead each and every step of your life. But to be frank, even if you plan ahead, sometimes there will be some slips. When life pushes you down, get up as early as possible on your feet and smile.

Life can be meaningful if you have a goal. A goal to achieve something. It may be a goal in career, getting a car or a new home, starting up a new business, getting your crush to come on a date with you, etc. A person with one focus point will always achieve sooner. It's better to prioritize your goals and start working towards them. There will be some meaning to your life when you wake up every morning saying “today is the day I achieve”.

Life is uncertain. Don't always assume that things will go wrong. Who says you can't be a superman? You can be a double superman. You are the hero of your life story. Keep that in mind and live your life. In my opinion, physical pain is better than mental pain. So skip your sleep, work hard, because crying after failing is not going to give you anything except a comedown. Don't blame time, live your life meaningfully.

Fill your life with happiness. What is real happiness? Happiness is the feeling when you feel content. Yes, I have done it. I have fulfilled my life's meaning. Or it can be a feeling when you help others. Most of the people are feeling same as you deep down. Depressed, miserable, heavy-hearted. The only way to come out of it is by helping others. Fill your life with friends and relatives. Don't waste your feelings for someone who don't deserve it.

Live life with what you have. Life is very simple. It's not complicated with trigonometric and algebraic equations like you think. It's within our own mind how we live and how we enjoy this small life of ours. How long are you going to live? Have you lived this past life of yours to the fullest? What's the use in still sitting and thinking and planning for the future? Plan the future with what you have. Don't wish for something that cannot achieve. That will make your life complicated and worse.

Last but not least. Have fun. Yes. Fun. This life of ours is limited. But you can always make it a wonderful journey. Travel to places, make prayers, help friends, live the life to the fullest. And when is your life meaningful? The answer is "when you stop asking this question to yourself". Don't ask is my life meaningful? Have I lived my life meaningful? No. You are not on the edge of death. You still have years or months or even a lot of days to live. Meaningful or not will be the answer from your heart.

-Via Dhivya

Confidence- The key to success

Have you ever felt like a lost cause, like a dried up leaf blowing through the wind? Have you ever envied those who seem to have it all in life, may it be their looks, brains, or their charming personality? The secret that everybody would like to know is HOW? How do they manage a billion tasks at hand with such grace and successful outcomes without even complaining?

Confidence, my friend, is the key to obtaining everything and gaining admiration for every project you undertake.  If one is confident about his abilities and believes in himself then there’s no stopping him from having his way in life. Some tips have been shared in the following for you to upgrade your game a little and give those perfectionists a little competition of your own.

1.     FOCUS ON YOUR WANTS RATHER THAN ON YOUR DON’T’S:

I’ve seen people including myself getting worked up on how they “don’t want” situations to turn out rather than focusing on how they “should” turn out.  Taking academics as an example, students are mostly seen stressing over bad grades rather than working hard to avoid them. My point is if one defines his wants and shows consistency while working towards their goal then he certainly can make it happen. I mean hard work always pays you back, right?

2.     NO ONE KNOWS YOU BETTER THAN YOURSELF:

I know how people always tell you that you can achieve everything you want by pushing yourself harder, expanding your horizons and testing your potentials etc. Well, I won’t disagree with their advice completely and as much as their concern is appreciated, it is important that they consider that they’re demanding all of this from a person who’s feeling worthless and has zero motivation for productivity.
You know what you’re capable of and it’s important that you believe in yourself rather than pressurizing yourself to do better. You will excel in life but timely. Identify situations and see whether you have the ability to change its outcome or not.  Previously, I saw a video of a priest telling people that there’s literally no use worrying about situations you can’t control. There’s nothing to worry about even if you can change them and this hit me hard. We human beings tend to stress a lot over irrelevant things, no?

3.     PLANNING IS EVERYTHING!

It isn’t humanly possible to address a task or problem at hand all at once. Go a little easy on yourself and break it down into simple, easy steps so that you get to celebrate and appreciate your small yet significant accomplishments. This would help boost your confidence and also provide exposure to uncertain circumstances that would help shape your skills.

4.     INDULGE YOURSELF IN ROLE PLAY:

This might sound crazy but it does wonders for me. I imagine myself in specific situations and pretend that I’m having with a dialogue with the people in it. This helps practice my communication skills and prepares me beforehand. The other person, impressed by my efficient cognitive processes and creativity will most certainly consider my proposal or anything else that I would have to share with them.

5.     ADAPT  TO UNEXPECTED SITUATIONS:

It’s essential that you shake hands with the workings of the universe and understand that given the power to exert control over certain situations, things may not always be congruent with your expectations.  If things didn’t work out this time, doesn’t mean they won’t ever. Never be afraid to adapt to change! A confident person never cries over spilled milk but instead, he does something to clean something and start pouring a fresh glass for himself.
Just revise your strategies; invest yourself in your goal and one day you’ll look back and feel proud of yourself for having steered your ship out of the stormy seas.

-Via Zoha

PERFECTION- A LIE

The short life that I’ve lived so far has made me realize that we all are wheeling towards achieving the impossible. We’ve become runners of a race that has no finish line. We’re constantly battling against those who are more beautiful, richer, talented and popular. We’ve indulged ourselves so that we’re totally missing out on celebrating the small yet significant things in our life.

Do you celebrate your so-called average test marks? Do you celebrate when somebody compliments you? I highly doubt it. Why? Because everyone these days wants more. More marks, more appreciation, more money, a higher position or a social status and the list stretch as long as you want it to. Everyone is competing with everyone. Competition is separate and is definitely something healthy but only until one doesn’t start obsessing over it.

We start setting our standards so high that they become impossible to achieve. What happens next is that you develop a disappointment, which leads to mental and physical exhaustion, frustration and eventually you break down. It’s only when you reach old age do you realize how you’ve wasted your life over meaningless things when you could’ve easily made it with whatever you already owned. It is then when you start questioning your previous decisions.

Why is it actually so that we experience this urge to surpass other people in order to be happy? Why can’t we be just satisfied with the looks that we have and the grades and social status that we can easily achieve? Primarily, it’s because we feel the need to be acknowledged, accepted and admired by the people around us. This isn’t wrong but one shouldn’t lose himself in its pursuit. Those who excel in whatever they do are exemplified. All-rounders are what we call them. They are the standard that all must achieve.

Also, with us approaching the digital age, the need to be perfect is being constantly promoted by social media. People have put their oh so perfect lives on display so others can idealize them. We deem them as flawless personalities because we take away their privilege of being or having a real life. We forget that while a nice camera and a skilled photographer may manipulate the impression people have of them, it cannot stop life from challenging them repeatedly. These people have just simply mastered the art of showing off the brighter side of their lives to people. 

Sadly, the world today is a monotonous place where individuality is rarely found. What we need to understand is that there is no such thing as perfection. There is the only improvement which can be brought about with a considerable amount of effort and a determined attitude and that is what one should aim for.

-Via Zoha

Fear Is an Illusion

Fear is a common and natural emotion, which is experienced by people as well as animals. Before proceeding forward let’s look into what defines fear.

WHAT IS FEAR?

Basically, fear is a natural reaction, a reaction to threat that may cause us harm in any way possible i.e. either mentally or physically. It’s been rightfully termed as False Evidence Appearing realistic. If you are mature enough to know the roots of its cause than you know better than most that its critical and possible to hold the reins of your fear. For instance, animals don’t have the knowledge as to why they are feeling fearful, as a result they react in aggressive manner. Human, on the other hand, are more intelligent, reasonable and have the ability to use fear to construct rather than destroy.

RELATION BETWEEN HUMANS AND THEIR FEARS

Some of you might have next to no kind of control over your fears while some are what you might call as brave or simply fearless. Thing is you can be resilient, even animals can be trained to control their fears to some extent. These people that enjoy the pumping adrenaline rush due to fear are to some limit secure and confident; they do not require much assistant from others to live their life. They are independent and face their fears bravely and wisely.

KINDS OF FEARS

Some of the different types of fears that you may experience yourself or view among people in your social circle are noted here

●      Fear of being judged A.K.A Social Phobias

●      Fear of space A.K.A Agoraphobia

●      Fear of heights A.K.A  Acrophobia

●      Fear of Flying A.K.A Pteromerhanophobia

●      Fear of close space A.K.A Claustrophobia

●      Fear of insects A.K.A Entomophobia

●      Fear of snakes A.K.A Ophidiophobia

●      Fear of dogs A.K.A Cynophobia

●      Fear of stroms A.K.A Astraphobia

●      Fear of needle A.K.A Trypanophobia

Above were some of the most common fears also known as phobias. Luckily, I have none of them. Actually I am not afraid of anything except God. And in the next para I will enlighten you about how and why you like me should not be afraid of nothing.

ROOT CAUSE OF FEAR

The most common root cause of fear is love and importance….yes you read it right; love and importance. Now you will be wondering how love and importance causes you to piss your pants. Well here is how it casts its magic on you.

All humans have something or someone that they love and cannot imagine life without such, something they consider more the most vital than anything and they are afraid to lose that thing. A simple example of it is that every human holds his/her life extremely precious and so they feel the paranoia of losing it. Similarly anything that is dear to you and important to you, you will feel the fear of losing it.

HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR FEARS

Fear is just an illusion, it can easily be dealt with. We all know that we cannot eliminate the root cause of fear i.e. Love and importance. The next best thing you can do to overcome your fears is to take the following steps when you are frightened of something.

1.     Know what your fear is about

Before taking below steps, first, know what your fear is about i.e. what is that you are so afraid. After you have got the answer to your question move on to next step

2.     Convert your fear into anger

Convert your fear into anger, you should be angry that you felt fear and the adrenaline will kick in.

3.     Think clearly and rationally

If something causes the sense of fear to rise you should think clearly and rationally, use logic and common sense and your reaction to it should be calm and keep your thoughts collective.

4.     If cornered, attack fearlessly and relentlessly

If you are cornered and there is no other way to go then you should attack fearlessly and relentlessly.

5.     Enjoy overcoming your fear

Like what you are doing, enjoy overcoming your fear and you will get addicted to it. You are missing on the most important memories of your life in giving up to fear. Stand your ground and live your life to the extreme.