Wisdom is not everyone's cup of tea. A deep and understanding heart and mind is required extensively. Accommodation of true wisdom within yourself, needs strength and will power.
"Wisdom is not a matter of age, Wisdom is the matter of healed wounds"
F.E.A.R.
is rightfully stated as False Evidence Appearing Real is a fantasy produced by our mind into tricking us to believe in a
false outcome that may cause harm to you and your surroundings.
And yet we let our brain
trick us into believing that this illusion is anything but that.
Fear will freeze you,
frighten you. It will hold you back in the fantasy where whatever worst outcome
you might imagine happen will actually come to pass. It holds us in a
state where we feel that what we imagine is as real to us as anything that’s
actually happened and giving up to your fears causes paranoia of different
kinds.
Fear arises from the
darkest parts of our imagination, the pieces that do not know how to trust, and
hence, even if your mind knows that it is an illusion, this part of your
imagination does not let you trust that fact.
How to overcome your fears?
Buddha said, “All that we
are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we create our world.” This
simply means our thoughts create our fear. We are intelligent beings, we know
how to control our behavior, hence, it might not be that tough a task to
control your thoughts and direct them into overcoming our fears and paranoia. When you start to believe of
yourself as the harbinger of negative outcomes, you become a victim to your
fear fantasies. To sidestep your fears, you must convince yourself of the
opposite of the negative thoughts that roam in your mind feeding off of
your precious moments of life.
Fears are caused when you
step outside of your comfort zone, so whenever you do be prepared for an attack
by your fears, but step out of your comfort zone anyway, relax your mind with the fact that this feeling is just
caused by the alarm of stepping into an unfamiliar zone or the terror of a bad
outcome, and you will feel the fear fluidly flow out of your body.
If fear is an illusion,
something must definitely be causing it. Ask yourself, what it is? Move your
fear into the light. Bringing it under
the microscope without hesitations and shedding light on it, trying to
understand it will take you to a better place. This might be hard, as no-one
wants to dissect what causes them to shake in terror and it might not help you
overcome these fears, however, this will
help you understand them and in future control your responses to them.
Next, make a plan of action. Once you know what the challenge is and you
have brought it out in the open, then it is time to act on how to control them.
Small positive steps in the right direction are all that is required to work on the fear factor. Once you have taken these steps, and you will
close to some gaining a semblance of control on your fears, this will help you
relax more and make you feel much lighter. To overcome your fears you need to
develop goals to which you are committed in your life more than any desire and
then and only then the barrier of fears put forth in your way to achieving
those goals will be of no value. You need to investigate a workable plan of
action that works best for you in controlling your fears.
After
setting up a plan of action you must take some baby steps such as visualize
yourself carrying out the things you fear the most in life. Visualize it to be
as true as possible. Keep in mind that the subconscious cannot differentiate
between what is real and what is imaginary, it just processes the data fed to
it. This is how you begin to program the subconscious mind to overcome your
fears then it is just a matter of time before you turn it to reality.
Before getting to verdict of this post, have you gone through our previous explanation of fear? Still not? Then go and check it out here.
I
personally believe that overcoming fear is a not a god given skill but one that
needs to be taught and honed sharply. Yes, it takes time because you are
reprogramming your brain to remain calm when faced by distressful and alarming
situations, Nevertheless, the joy, adrenaline and the euphoria that you feel
when you realize that you have actually managed to overcome some of the biggest
fears makes all of the commitment of fighting them worth the effort. It’s like
Bungee Jumping or Skydiving, once you overcome the fear of the initial jump,
its pure euphoria, and fun. Finding it in you to read this far and taking
consideration of my suggestions you have already sent the wheel rolling. Just works
on the steps mentioned above and move forward. I hope you overcome these
illusions and feel the emotions that lie past your war against them.
The short life
that I’ve lived so far has made me realize that we all are wheeling towards achieving
the impossible. We’ve become runners of a race that has no finish line. We’re
constantly battling against those who are more beautiful, richer, talented and
popular. We’ve indulged ourselves so that we’re totally missing out on
celebrating the small yet significant things in our life.
Do you celebrate your so-called average test marks? Do you celebrate when
somebody compliments you? I highly doubt it. Why? Because everyone these days
wants more. More marks, more appreciation, more money, a higher position or a
social status and the list stretch as long as you want it to. Everyone is
competing with everyone. Competition is separate and is definitely something
healthy but only until one doesn’t start obsessing over it.
We start setting
our standards so high that they become impossible to achieve. What happens next
is that you develop a disappointment, which leads to mental and physical exhaustion,
frustration and eventually you break down. It’s only when you reach old age do you realize how you’ve wasted your
life over meaningless things when you could’ve easily made it with whatever you
already owned. It is then when you start questioning your previous decisions.
Why is it actually so that we experience this urge to surpass other people in
order to be happy? Why can’t we be just satisfied with the looks that we have
and the grades and social status that we can easily achieve? Primarily, it’s
because we feel the need to be acknowledged, accepted and admired by the people
around us. This isn’t wrong but one
shouldn’t lose himself in its pursuit. Those who excel in whatever they do are
exemplified. All-rounders are what we call them.
They are the standard that all must achieve.
Also, with us approaching the digital age, the need to be perfect is being constantly promoted by social media. People have
put their oh so perfect lives on
display so others can idealize them. We deem them as flawless personalities because we take away their privilege of being
or having a real life. We forget that while a nice camera and a skilled photographer
may manipulate the impression people have of them, it cannot stop life from
challenging them repeatedly. These people have just simply mastered the art of
showing off the brighter side of their lives to people.
Sadly, the world today is a monotonous place where individuality is rarely found. What we need to understand is
that there is no such thing as perfection.
There is the only improvement which can
be brought about with a considerable amount of effort and a determined attitude
and that is what one should aim for.
