Confidence- The key to success

Have you ever felt like a lost cause, like a dried up leaf blowing through the wind? Have you ever envied those who seem to have it all in life, may it be their looks, brains, or their charming personality? The secret that everybody would like to know is HOW? How do they manage a billion tasks at hand with such grace and successful outcomes without even complaining?

Confidence, my friend, is the key to obtaining everything and gaining admiration for every project you undertake.  If one is confident about his abilities and believes in himself then there’s no stopping him from having his way in life. Some tips have been shared in the following for you to upgrade your game a little and give those perfectionists a little competition of your own.

1.     FOCUS ON YOUR WANTS RATHER THAN ON YOUR DON’T’S:

I’ve seen people including myself getting worked up on how they “don’t want” situations to turn out rather than focusing on how they “should” turn out.  Taking academics as an example, students are mostly seen stressing over bad grades rather than working hard to avoid them. My point is if one defines his wants and shows consistency while working towards their goal then he certainly can make it happen. I mean hard work always pays you back, right?

2.     NO ONE KNOWS YOU BETTER THAN YOURSELF:

I know how people always tell you that you can achieve everything you want by pushing yourself harder, expanding your horizons and testing your potentials etc. Well, I won’t disagree with their advice completely and as much as their concern is appreciated, it is important that they consider that they’re demanding all of this from a person who’s feeling worthless and has zero motivation for productivity.
You know what you’re capable of and it’s important that you believe in yourself rather than pressurizing yourself to do better. You will excel in life but timely. Identify situations and see whether you have the ability to change its outcome or not.  Previously, I saw a video of a priest telling people that there’s literally no use worrying about situations you can’t control. There’s nothing to worry about even if you can change them and this hit me hard. We human beings tend to stress a lot over irrelevant things, no?

3.     PLANNING IS EVERYTHING!

It isn’t humanly possible to address a task or problem at hand all at once. Go a little easy on yourself and break it down into simple, easy steps so that you get to celebrate and appreciate your small yet significant accomplishments. This would help boost your confidence and also provide exposure to uncertain circumstances that would help shape your skills.

4.     INDULGE YOURSELF IN ROLE PLAY:

This might sound crazy but it does wonders for me. I imagine myself in specific situations and pretend that I’m having with a dialogue with the people in it. This helps practice my communication skills and prepares me beforehand. The other person, impressed by my efficient cognitive processes and creativity will most certainly consider my proposal or anything else that I would have to share with them.

5.     ADAPT  TO UNEXPECTED SITUATIONS:

It’s essential that you shake hands with the workings of the universe and understand that given the power to exert control over certain situations, things may not always be congruent with your expectations.  If things didn’t work out this time, doesn’t mean they won’t ever. Never be afraid to adapt to change! A confident person never cries over spilled milk but instead, he does something to clean something and start pouring a fresh glass for himself.
Just revise your strategies; invest yourself in your goal and one day you’ll look back and feel proud of yourself for having steered your ship out of the stormy seas.

-Via Zoha