RECONCILE YOUR WOUNDS WITH HEALING

Humans are the only creatures to be addressed as human “beings”, as we are the only species that have norms of how to be and how not to be.  We know that we have six senses and unlike other animals we are the only species that could think.  Thinking is as disastrous as much as it is beneficial.  No dog or cat is gonna sit and cry over backstabbing or split ups in relationships or vulgar words that pierce the heart so deep. We live with our heart and mind more than our body. 

We love with all our hearts and that’s why they hold scars much more than our bodiesdo.  These scars are mostly etched by our near and dear ones whom we love and trust which make it so deep that they cause pain rather than healing like any other scar that happens on your body physically.  When you get hurt mentally, the wound becomes more complicated to heal as there are no chemical drugs that can make that pain vanish.  Healing of a wound in heart is different from the process of healing of a wound in body. Each and every person should the different types of healing processes that he should carry out when he gets hurt so that psychological complications could be avoided for a better cause.

PREVENT YOURSELF FROM GETTING HURT, STOP MUSTERBATING.

I know now you are like “wait, what?”Lol.  I am talking about musturbation (Not the other one with “A” instead of “U”). Every human who is getting hurt very often is musterbating himself without knowing it and that is the foremost cause of losing happiness.

“Musterbation” is a term coined by American psychologist Albert Ellis. He says if you have things that make you get angry, frustrated or upset you, 99% of the time you have a “must” or “ought” or “should” in your mind.   Eg: He must talk to me politely, She should be loyal to me etc… which will end up in musterbating and should-ing ourselves.  People always do what they want no matter what you think.  So Yeah be careful in choosing your must(s)…should(s)…whatsoever…  Otherwise you would end up arguing with reality which will obviously make you feel disappointed.

HEALING DEEP WOUNDS AND SCARS

Generally speaking, as much as physical health is concerned scars are sign of recovery and are considered better than bleeding wounds but psychologically scars are dreadful incidents whose pain does not cease.

Learn to be brave and to forgive and forget. Accept your mistakes instead of arguing and blaming. These make relationships stronger after a fight instead of break ups.  This might be hard but will help you live a happy and peaceful life for sure.

-via Nidhi Goel